Does that it make you suffer because you have to die? Is it best to live a lie?
That’s the question that Bad Religion asks in their song, “Destined For Nothing.” I don’t know the answer, really. I am doing my thing, observing my friends and family going through the motions… and seeing that some of the motions aren’t healthy.
I don’t like to watch my friends hurt, whether the hurt be financial, romantic, winter blahs, loneliness, stress. And I feel for them – I have definitely been through all of the above. And, in some cases, sometimes those things are healthy. We grow in the tough times, so they are somewhat necessary from time to time.
But sometimes these things seem like too much for us to take. I hate to see others at that breaking point. I hate to be there myself.
As much as it sucks sometimes – for ourselves, and for others – we can’t always cover things up. Sometimes you’ve got to throw off the shroud. Just know that in those times, you have friends who do love you and care. It is easier to share than go through it all alone.
That said - the good guys and gals covered - I have to vent about something else.
Fucking people make me sick. Listen, we all make mistakes. I find myself qualifying my opinions all the time, and maybe I do that too much. Maybe I don't stick hard enough to my guns. And in those cases maybe I am part of the problem.
But life is tough enough without people looking to cheat, steal, and stab each other in the back all the fucking time.
I think to myself, how can I trust anyone? I want to be close to something dangerous - want to be with someone who can be wild, out of control, unhinged, and on the edge. I want our relationship to exist there. But how the fuck can I ever trust someone else like that again? Finding diamonds in the rough is rare, and the rest of the people walking around either don't meet my sometimes-too-lofty standards, or are so fucking shallow and evil as to not merit my time or consideration.
Sometimes the evil ones get you (me) anyway. They're sneaky like that.
Mom and Dad always taught me the Golden Rule - particularly mom. And I've read plenty about Jesus and turning the other cheek and loving your neighbor.
And I don't see much of those three rules in practice. Anywhere. Yes, even in my own actions.
We are a selfish, fucking excuse for a race of creatures. Like Ed Vedder said in "Rats" ...
"They don't scurry when something bigger comes their way, don't pack themselves together and run as one. Don't shit where they're not supposed to, don't take what's not theirs, they don't compare."
They don't compare. WE don't compare. Sorry fucking human race.
Listen. If you take one thing from this whole post, take this: be kind to one another. Try it some time. It just might spread. Try and think how you would feel if x and y and z happened to you... and avoid doing x and y and z to anyone, especially the people you love.
Be a human being. See the humanity, the emotion, the fucking soul in someone else's eyes.
And respect it.
11.05.2008
Can't Wait For Election Day...
And I couldn't. I couldn't wait for election day. I was up early, and off to the polls... which if you haven't heard by now, were poorly handled, stationed, etc etc etc in Indiana. I stood outside in the morning 40 degree weather for an hour. The woman behind me had on sandals. She mentioned more than once, or twice, or thrice, he dismay and idioticy at having chosen sandals on this morning.
I waited, then I took my three to five minutes and made my choices. And then, like the rest of America and her Americans, I waited.
And I watched Wolf and Anderson on CNN tell me how it was going. I feared. I hoped. And then...
Rewind. I haven't had much hope in humanity lately. I've been sorely - SORELY - disappointed in the actions and attitudes of most of the people around me. Some of them I associate with, and I have grown more and more Sartre-ian in my apathy and disgust for these people. Others are just the assholes in front of me on my way to and from work, driving ever so slowly, erratically stopping, sitting at an open roundabout for 3 minutes because they are too stupid and confused to know to drive into it.
I lost hope. I lost patience. I examined my own life and my successes and failures, and wondered if I measured up to my standards and to other people's standards.
I also took stock of many, many things. I rediscovered goodness is people, too. I had great friends and great parents and great people around me.
But I needed a hero.
I think we all did.
And we needed a cause. My generation, specifically, needed its cause. Our Vietnam. Our Aids. Our Abortion. Our WWII. We have become far too apathetic and cynical, because Gay Rights and Iraq were not enough for us to rally behind, not enough to give our young lives a sense of purpose, meaning, and accomplishment.
No. We needed our moment.
And then...
Last night, we got it.
I have never been more proud to be an American than I was last night and am right now. I have always had a fierce patriotism in my heart, because this land has let me accomplish so many things, and, truthfully, has tolerated so many of the things I love, and yes, hate. We live in the greatest nation, a flaw nation, but one without equal. Only our fears, prejudices, hatreds, and nagging need to judge and damn all those around us holds us back
.
Well, last night, we struck a blow againts apathy. Against hatred. Against cynicism. And yes, against Sartre-ian Nausea.
And even though as Barack Obama walked across the stage, I felt a twinge of fear... I felt hope.
Now I just hope our hatreds don't get the best of us. Already this morning, on the devil of all mankind, the internet, I saw a classmate from high school declare our nation now embroiled in communism and a place where hard work wasn't rewarded, but that our rewards are stolen from the righteous and given to the unclean. I remember this student from high school. He was a good kid, and by all accounts a good man. I remember him having the Confederate flag hanging from the back of his mud-slingin' truck. I wonder if he has ever thought of a black American as anything other than "nigger."
That made me pause. I make racist jokes all the time. And I am ashamed, and always have been, of my own racism. Racism is taught. You aren't born with it. And if I were to say I wasn't a racist, I would be lying. I know the words of hate, and I say the words of hate. But I do truly fear the places the words lead. And while I am flawed, I hope that that fear, and the knowledge that I can do and be better, will lead me to be a better person than I am today. My parents and family have been the most wonderful, loving people I have ever known. My friends and colleagues have been the same. Still, I hope one day, if I have children, i can do better by them in this way. I hope I can teach them to be more tolerant than I, even as I myself was taught by my parents to be more tolerant than them.
Still, I know as full of fear and racism as I can be and have been, I struck a blow from my heart against my programmed mind. I fought off the Nausea, the fear, the apathy. And I will continue to fight.
I am proud to be an American. I am proud to have graduated from a redneck, racist High School, and I am proud of the people who, like me, escaped it. I am proud of those of us who strive against the apathy and the nausea.
I am proud of Barack Obama. I am proud of our country, the one we will continue to build and lead and grow together. I invite you all to celebrate this most historic of days with me.
I ask anyone of my generation to finally put their selfishness down and to revel in this day, in this victory. We took one small step towards change. Now, please, let's keep moving forward.
Now... get out of my way, damnit. Learn how to drive!!!
I waited, then I took my three to five minutes and made my choices. And then, like the rest of America and her Americans, I waited.
And I watched Wolf and Anderson on CNN tell me how it was going. I feared. I hoped. And then...
Rewind. I haven't had much hope in humanity lately. I've been sorely - SORELY - disappointed in the actions and attitudes of most of the people around me. Some of them I associate with, and I have grown more and more Sartre-ian in my apathy and disgust for these people. Others are just the assholes in front of me on my way to and from work, driving ever so slowly, erratically stopping, sitting at an open roundabout for 3 minutes because they are too stupid and confused to know to drive into it.
I lost hope. I lost patience. I examined my own life and my successes and failures, and wondered if I measured up to my standards and to other people's standards.
I also took stock of many, many things. I rediscovered goodness is people, too. I had great friends and great parents and great people around me.
But I needed a hero.
I think we all did.
And we needed a cause. My generation, specifically, needed its cause. Our Vietnam. Our Aids. Our Abortion. Our WWII. We have become far too apathetic and cynical, because Gay Rights and Iraq were not enough for us to rally behind, not enough to give our young lives a sense of purpose, meaning, and accomplishment.
No. We needed our moment.
And then...
Last night, we got it.
I have never been more proud to be an American than I was last night and am right now. I have always had a fierce patriotism in my heart, because this land has let me accomplish so many things, and, truthfully, has tolerated so many of the things I love, and yes, hate. We live in the greatest nation, a flaw nation, but one without equal. Only our fears, prejudices, hatreds, and nagging need to judge and damn all those around us holds us back
.
Well, last night, we struck a blow againts apathy. Against hatred. Against cynicism. And yes, against Sartre-ian Nausea.
And even though as Barack Obama walked across the stage, I felt a twinge of fear... I felt hope.
Now I just hope our hatreds don't get the best of us. Already this morning, on the devil of all mankind, the internet, I saw a classmate from high school declare our nation now embroiled in communism and a place where hard work wasn't rewarded, but that our rewards are stolen from the righteous and given to the unclean. I remember this student from high school. He was a good kid, and by all accounts a good man. I remember him having the Confederate flag hanging from the back of his mud-slingin' truck. I wonder if he has ever thought of a black American as anything other than "nigger."
That made me pause. I make racist jokes all the time. And I am ashamed, and always have been, of my own racism. Racism is taught. You aren't born with it. And if I were to say I wasn't a racist, I would be lying. I know the words of hate, and I say the words of hate. But I do truly fear the places the words lead. And while I am flawed, I hope that that fear, and the knowledge that I can do and be better, will lead me to be a better person than I am today. My parents and family have been the most wonderful, loving people I have ever known. My friends and colleagues have been the same. Still, I hope one day, if I have children, i can do better by them in this way. I hope I can teach them to be more tolerant than I, even as I myself was taught by my parents to be more tolerant than them.
Still, I know as full of fear and racism as I can be and have been, I struck a blow from my heart against my programmed mind. I fought off the Nausea, the fear, the apathy. And I will continue to fight.
I am proud to be an American. I am proud to have graduated from a redneck, racist High School, and I am proud of the people who, like me, escaped it. I am proud of those of us who strive against the apathy and the nausea.
I am proud of Barack Obama. I am proud of our country, the one we will continue to build and lead and grow together. I invite you all to celebrate this most historic of days with me.
I ask anyone of my generation to finally put their selfishness down and to revel in this day, in this victory. We took one small step towards change. Now, please, let's keep moving forward.
Now... get out of my way, damnit. Learn how to drive!!!
10.24.2008
Taking Back Control, pt. 2
So, here's what you're getting... 95% totally, brutally honest (some secrets you just don't tell, lol):
Name: Dustin C.
Age: 28
Residence: Self-owned Home in Plainfield, IN
Occupation: Ecommerce Manager
Vehicle: 2005 Jeep Liberty Sport
Debt: between 5k and 10k
Salary: between 25k and 35k
Height: 5'5", sometimes 5'3" and sometimes maybe slightly taller
Weight: Anywhere between 175 and 195 lbs., depending on the season and how active I've been. Right now, I'm getting svelt.
Hair: Brown, fading, receeding hairline, short
Eyes: Blue, usually with black horn-rim glasses
Likes: music, playing music, writing, reading. Too much music to list. Playing guitar. Singing. A little bit of travelling. Brown County Indiana. Sex. Adventurous sex. Spending money on music. Good dining. Cooking. Fishing. Hiking. Indiana University Basketball. Watching IU hoops. Watching hoops in general. Shooting hoops. Other sports. Geek stuff. WoW on occasion. D&D on much less frequent occasion. Battletech on less frequent occasion. Firefly and Serenity. Spaced. CSI - the original. Zombie movies. Musical Rom-Coms. Collecting music. Long, uninterrupted drives. Being philosophical. Late night chats. Beer. Whiskey. An occasional cigarette. Light to medium to heavy exercise, usually three to five times a week. Open-mindedness. Exploring religious thoughts. Big questions. Barack Obama.
Dislikes: traffic, driving, driving in traffic. Tense confrontations. Anger issues. Crazy women. Bad sex. Hard drugs. Slobs. Lazy people. Sloth-like people. Hateful people. People who can't drive. People in general. Bitchy people. Judgemental people. John McCain.
Things I think I think:
My parents are the most amazing, smartest, kindest, hard-working and loving people I know. They are still together.
My parents set an impossible to reach goal and standard for my relationships.
Hard work really can and does pay off.
I like music. I am not on drugs.
Sex is an awesome, intimate experience.
Sex is only as good as the least-experienced/least-knowledgable person involved in the act. Thankfully, open-minded persons can learn.
God exists. I just don't know much more about him than that.
God is love. I used to think this. I am not so sure anymore.
I have slept with too many people. Only a few of those people really touched my heart. I feel incredibly guilty about this. Other times I just feel horny.
Guilt is my closest internal friend, next to hope. Hope wins out. But they battle a lot.
I am a nice, sensitive guy. Get over it.
I am not obsessed, clingy, or desparate. Please, you don't be, either.
I love starry night skies and the ocean. I am not gay.
I love to write, and should more.
I am too uptight, and will probably die of a heart attack before I am 4o. I am working on extending that lifespan, by exercising, eating healthier, and trying to chill the fuck out.
I like things simple.
Nothing is simple anymore.
I am old-fashioned in many ways. And modern in others.
Technology is killing us all slowly, in many, many ways.
Back porch music is best.
Back porch friends are best.
I have a lot of what I would call back porch friends. At least 3.
I have remained unmarried while most of my friends, and exes, from college have been married, been divorced, had kids, and/or any combination of those three.
Yes, I do get lonely. If that sounds pathetic to you, piss off. You get lonely too, so stop acting like you are better than everyone, or, you know, better than me.
"Hard To Imagine" is the best Pearl Jam song, at least in my heart.
I believe in the human soul.
I am afraid my dad and mom will both be dead before I either marry or have children. I have way too much guilt over this.
I have been far too lucky in every aspect of my life... except relationships with the opposite sex.
I have still had some very blessed and rewarding relationships with the opposite sex.
I do wonder if it is me.
Most of the time I am convinced it is them.
I have done some bad things that I know I shouldn't have. But I am still here. There have been mistakes, but nothing can be done about those. Each day I am born anew, and can forgive what I can't forget.
I like athletic girls. I like small breasts. I like flat tummies. None of that matters in my heart, just in my pants, and then, it's kind of just icing on the cake.
I am attracted, physically, to a lot of different "types" of women.
I am convinced I will settle for someone I am not emotionally or physically attracted to.
I fight the urge to settle.
I hate the urge to settle.
Time is running out. To settle or not.
I can play a mean guitar, man.
I like to think I am a lover. I fight off my guilt and self-doubt to achieve that. For my adult life, since I graduated college, I have become better and better at that.
I would say I am a good, honest, loving person.
I have a lot to offer someone, in almost every aspect of life.
I am complete by myself. I only hope for a shared life experience with someone else that is as wonderful and deserving as... well, me.
Despite that, chemistry, emotion, and attraction all play a part.
I am not crazy. I am normal.
It sometimes takes a lot to admit internally that I am not alone in this. I think most people are crazy.
I do think humanity is broken.
I think we live in a golden age of brokeness, sin, and selfishness.
I am very selfish.
I try my hardest to not be selfish. I hope that it'll catch on.
I love everyone, inside. I just wish some people would be nicer to me. And that some people wouldn't drive in front of me.
Name: Dustin C.
Age: 28
Residence: Self-owned Home in Plainfield, IN
Occupation: Ecommerce Manager
Vehicle: 2005 Jeep Liberty Sport
Debt: between 5k and 10k
Salary: between 25k and 35k
Height: 5'5", sometimes 5'3" and sometimes maybe slightly taller
Weight: Anywhere between 175 and 195 lbs., depending on the season and how active I've been. Right now, I'm getting svelt.
Hair: Brown, fading, receeding hairline, short
Eyes: Blue, usually with black horn-rim glasses
Likes: music, playing music, writing, reading. Too much music to list. Playing guitar. Singing. A little bit of travelling. Brown County Indiana. Sex. Adventurous sex. Spending money on music. Good dining. Cooking. Fishing. Hiking. Indiana University Basketball. Watching IU hoops. Watching hoops in general. Shooting hoops. Other sports. Geek stuff. WoW on occasion. D&D on much less frequent occasion. Battletech on less frequent occasion. Firefly and Serenity. Spaced. CSI - the original. Zombie movies. Musical Rom-Coms. Collecting music. Long, uninterrupted drives. Being philosophical. Late night chats. Beer. Whiskey. An occasional cigarette. Light to medium to heavy exercise, usually three to five times a week. Open-mindedness. Exploring religious thoughts. Big questions. Barack Obama.
Dislikes: traffic, driving, driving in traffic. Tense confrontations. Anger issues. Crazy women. Bad sex. Hard drugs. Slobs. Lazy people. Sloth-like people. Hateful people. People who can't drive. People in general. Bitchy people. Judgemental people. John McCain.
Things I think I think:
My parents are the most amazing, smartest, kindest, hard-working and loving people I know. They are still together.
My parents set an impossible to reach goal and standard for my relationships.
Hard work really can and does pay off.
I like music. I am not on drugs.
Sex is an awesome, intimate experience.
Sex is only as good as the least-experienced/least-knowledgable person involved in the act. Thankfully, open-minded persons can learn.
God exists. I just don't know much more about him than that.
God is love. I used to think this. I am not so sure anymore.
I have slept with too many people. Only a few of those people really touched my heart. I feel incredibly guilty about this. Other times I just feel horny.
Guilt is my closest internal friend, next to hope. Hope wins out. But they battle a lot.
I am a nice, sensitive guy. Get over it.
I am not obsessed, clingy, or desparate. Please, you don't be, either.
I love starry night skies and the ocean. I am not gay.
I love to write, and should more.
I am too uptight, and will probably die of a heart attack before I am 4o. I am working on extending that lifespan, by exercising, eating healthier, and trying to chill the fuck out.
I like things simple.
Nothing is simple anymore.
I am old-fashioned in many ways. And modern in others.
Technology is killing us all slowly, in many, many ways.
Back porch music is best.
Back porch friends are best.
I have a lot of what I would call back porch friends. At least 3.
I have remained unmarried while most of my friends, and exes, from college have been married, been divorced, had kids, and/or any combination of those three.
Yes, I do get lonely. If that sounds pathetic to you, piss off. You get lonely too, so stop acting like you are better than everyone, or, you know, better than me.
"Hard To Imagine" is the best Pearl Jam song, at least in my heart.
I believe in the human soul.
I am afraid my dad and mom will both be dead before I either marry or have children. I have way too much guilt over this.
I have been far too lucky in every aspect of my life... except relationships with the opposite sex.
I have still had some very blessed and rewarding relationships with the opposite sex.
I do wonder if it is me.
Most of the time I am convinced it is them.
I have done some bad things that I know I shouldn't have. But I am still here. There have been mistakes, but nothing can be done about those. Each day I am born anew, and can forgive what I can't forget.
I like athletic girls. I like small breasts. I like flat tummies. None of that matters in my heart, just in my pants, and then, it's kind of just icing on the cake.
I am attracted, physically, to a lot of different "types" of women.
I am convinced I will settle for someone I am not emotionally or physically attracted to.
I fight the urge to settle.
I hate the urge to settle.
Time is running out. To settle or not.
I can play a mean guitar, man.
I like to think I am a lover. I fight off my guilt and self-doubt to achieve that. For my adult life, since I graduated college, I have become better and better at that.
I would say I am a good, honest, loving person.
I have a lot to offer someone, in almost every aspect of life.
I am complete by myself. I only hope for a shared life experience with someone else that is as wonderful and deserving as... well, me.
Despite that, chemistry, emotion, and attraction all play a part.
I am not crazy. I am normal.
It sometimes takes a lot to admit internally that I am not alone in this. I think most people are crazy.
I do think humanity is broken.
I think we live in a golden age of brokeness, sin, and selfishness.
I am very selfish.
I try my hardest to not be selfish. I hope that it'll catch on.
I love everyone, inside. I just wish some people would be nicer to me. And that some people wouldn't drive in front of me.
Taking Back Control
So... I was "stood up" last night. Which is really no big deal and not anything that hasn't happened before. Maybe it was karma for keeping someone else guessing, or for some other shitty dating thing I've done. I am not perfect, and while I generally try and treat people they way I'd like to be treated, I fail sometimes. We're all human, we've all been screwed and we've all screwed over someone else. It happens.
But, sitting in front of my PC last night, I began to think... I thought about two things, really. First, that dating sucks, and modern options for dating suck. And second, that I should make a form/post/whatever that was 100% brutally honest, and that anyone applying to date me should have the both read it, and fill one out the same way.
This morning, on my drive into work, Bob and Tom (the radio show) were talking to a mormon comedian who had tried the online dating thing. Then the comedian talked about speed dating. He mentioned that, hey, if you like getting rejected once a day, try speed dating, where you get rejected 30 times an hour!
Dating sucks. Well, no, scratch that... trying to date, beginning to date, however you want to say it... that sucks. Knowing someone, spending time together, getting to know each other... that stuff is nice. But the getting there sucks. The finding someone who is willing sucks - on both ends. It's not always me, and it's not always her.
The thing that pisses me off - and yes, it really does piss me off - about last night... I have no idea what made this person decide to be a bitch and blow me off. What I thought was nice and polite - and yes, I know, I am apparently way too nice and way too polite - did that turn out to be "clingy" or "desperate." You know, that's bullshit. I emailed to confirm a date the day before, then texted a few hours before when I got no response. The last communication I had before that said feel free to call me. Maybe that is too passive. But do you crazy ass girls really think that much about this shit?
I swear, some people are way too fucking insane for my tastes. Girls are pretty much all just bat-shit crazy - either it's too clingy this, or they are too clingy that. Either I am not Jesusy enough, or too much. I cuss too much, not enough. I'm too clean-cut, or not enough. Or they're too clean-cut, or not enough, too Jesusy or not enough, etc etc etc. Girls... you are all nuts. Women, you are all nuts. Ladies... damn, you crazy.
Stay tuned... I am so doing a dating application post.
But, sitting in front of my PC last night, I began to think... I thought about two things, really. First, that dating sucks, and modern options for dating suck. And second, that I should make a form/post/whatever that was 100% brutally honest, and that anyone applying to date me should have the both read it, and fill one out the same way.
This morning, on my drive into work, Bob and Tom (the radio show) were talking to a mormon comedian who had tried the online dating thing. Then the comedian talked about speed dating. He mentioned that, hey, if you like getting rejected once a day, try speed dating, where you get rejected 30 times an hour!
Dating sucks. Well, no, scratch that... trying to date, beginning to date, however you want to say it... that sucks. Knowing someone, spending time together, getting to know each other... that stuff is nice. But the getting there sucks. The finding someone who is willing sucks - on both ends. It's not always me, and it's not always her.
The thing that pisses me off - and yes, it really does piss me off - about last night... I have no idea what made this person decide to be a bitch and blow me off. What I thought was nice and polite - and yes, I know, I am apparently way too nice and way too polite - did that turn out to be "clingy" or "desperate." You know, that's bullshit. I emailed to confirm a date the day before, then texted a few hours before when I got no response. The last communication I had before that said feel free to call me. Maybe that is too passive. But do you crazy ass girls really think that much about this shit?
I swear, some people are way too fucking insane for my tastes. Girls are pretty much all just bat-shit crazy - either it's too clingy this, or they are too clingy that. Either I am not Jesusy enough, or too much. I cuss too much, not enough. I'm too clean-cut, or not enough. Or they're too clean-cut, or not enough, too Jesusy or not enough, etc etc etc. Girls... you are all nuts. Women, you are all nuts. Ladies... damn, you crazy.
Stay tuned... I am so doing a dating application post.
10.23.2008
Happiness is a warm, yes it is...
No, there is not a word missing in the title. Go listen to the White Album.
So, I just read a pretty basic advice colume on Slate.com - Dear Prudence (again with the White Album!). I dug her advice to a sad, self-loathing but otherwise normal person. Well, actually... I didn't think it was all that great, but the book she reference, the Happiness Hypothesis, well, I checked that out and thought it looked good.
For reason, this caused my brain to flash a big neon sign inside my head that said: HAPPINESS!!! Which lead me down the path to my whatever and ever, amen, type of thoughts on love, life, liberty and said pursuit of said wonderful thing, happiness.
This, in turn, made me think about my social life. Made me recall, and want to relate, that I have a date tonight. Including the gut feeling that said date tonight will not happen, because I haven't heard back from an email I sent yesterday to confirm said date.
Which lead me back to last night, thinking about the Firefly pilot episode, where Book and Inara discuss the captain, Mal. I'm going to paraphrase, but the scene I'm refering to went kind of like this:
Inara: Why are you so interested in the captain?
Book: Because he remains suchs a mystery. Why are you?
Inara: Because so few men are.
I don't know why, but the essence of that conversation really struck deep at my heart, yesterday, and at why I feel so lacking in the relationship department. I want to be mysterious, and want someone to find me that way, and, likewise, want to find a girl who is mysterious and who intrigues me.
If Shakespear said "know thyself," a quote I put a lot of weight in, I wonder if that leads to happiness? And, likewise, wouldn't "know someone else," too? Maybe not. I am babbling here.
The point is, happiness is subjective, from the point of the person wishing to achieve happiness. I think we'd all list that when attempting to find a partner/spouse/mate/friend.
To achieve that with someone else proves to be quite the chore, however. And no book is going to ever fix the communication problems between the sexes or between lovers/potential lovers. What may to me be a simple reminder and a way to finalize plans may seem to someone else as desparate, pushy, too interested, or some other strange way of contact.
It is in those moments when Richard Cheese is the, albeit short-term, answer to happiness.
So, I just read a pretty basic advice colume on Slate.com - Dear Prudence (again with the White Album!). I dug her advice to a sad, self-loathing but otherwise normal person. Well, actually... I didn't think it was all that great, but the book she reference, the Happiness Hypothesis, well, I checked that out and thought it looked good.
For reason, this caused my brain to flash a big neon sign inside my head that said: HAPPINESS!!! Which lead me down the path to my whatever and ever, amen, type of thoughts on love, life, liberty and said pursuit of said wonderful thing, happiness.
This, in turn, made me think about my social life. Made me recall, and want to relate, that I have a date tonight. Including the gut feeling that said date tonight will not happen, because I haven't heard back from an email I sent yesterday to confirm said date.
Which lead me back to last night, thinking about the Firefly pilot episode, where Book and Inara discuss the captain, Mal. I'm going to paraphrase, but the scene I'm refering to went kind of like this:
Inara: Why are you so interested in the captain?
Book: Because he remains suchs a mystery. Why are you?
Inara: Because so few men are.
I don't know why, but the essence of that conversation really struck deep at my heart, yesterday, and at why I feel so lacking in the relationship department. I want to be mysterious, and want someone to find me that way, and, likewise, want to find a girl who is mysterious and who intrigues me.
If Shakespear said "know thyself," a quote I put a lot of weight in, I wonder if that leads to happiness? And, likewise, wouldn't "know someone else," too? Maybe not. I am babbling here.
The point is, happiness is subjective, from the point of the person wishing to achieve happiness. I think we'd all list that when attempting to find a partner/spouse/mate/friend.
To achieve that with someone else proves to be quite the chore, however. And no book is going to ever fix the communication problems between the sexes or between lovers/potential lovers. What may to me be a simple reminder and a way to finalize plans may seem to someone else as desparate, pushy, too interested, or some other strange way of contact.
It is in those moments when Richard Cheese is the, albeit short-term, answer to happiness.
Alone, listless...
Things go, and as far as things go, things go well. Maybe better: things are going well.
Not that I thought otherwise, but it is a LOT of hard work trying to get things rolling in the music biz. Thankfully I have finally got some shows set up and it seems as though some of my networking efforts are paying off, too. I've got to hope I can repay some of these favors sometimes... I suppose that's why I keep going to shows.
I have been supremely busy. I think about friends I haven't talked to recently, and others who I've been ignoring. It's tough. My schedule has been packed full of stuff. I routinely only get one night during the week to myself... and now, because of all that is happening, that turns out to be my practice and updates night.
There's that word, that has been popping up some much recently in my thoughts... "routine." I usually am giving advice to friends on how to break up the routine and monotony of their lives. And even though I am not in a rut -this is a self-inflicted, and very needed routine - it's getting a little old.
Which says nothing of the lack of time for, or simply lack of, a social life. To say the least, I am bored. And I hate being bored. Routine and busyness leads to stress, and though I love making my way in the musical sense, it is stressful. I wish I had a way, and someone with whom, to disconnect. But that's asking for icing on the cake, I guess.
I have such a sneaking suspicion that things are going to get worse before they get better, on the homefront and in our country. Holidays are always tight for me, financially, and I'm getting to the point for I need to make some changes in my household - be it ridding myself of a roommate, or finding a way to create some space, or whatnot. It's also getting to the point where the free and easy work, for the musical stuff, is running out. It looks like my next steps will be paying to join organizations, and organizing a trip or several trips down to Nashville (TN) to start trying to break into publishing. That means money.
I need a secretary. A sexy one. And a rich one.
Not that I thought otherwise, but it is a LOT of hard work trying to get things rolling in the music biz. Thankfully I have finally got some shows set up and it seems as though some of my networking efforts are paying off, too. I've got to hope I can repay some of these favors sometimes... I suppose that's why I keep going to shows.
I have been supremely busy. I think about friends I haven't talked to recently, and others who I've been ignoring. It's tough. My schedule has been packed full of stuff. I routinely only get one night during the week to myself... and now, because of all that is happening, that turns out to be my practice and updates night.
There's that word, that has been popping up some much recently in my thoughts... "routine." I usually am giving advice to friends on how to break up the routine and monotony of their lives. And even though I am not in a rut -this is a self-inflicted, and very needed routine - it's getting a little old.
Which says nothing of the lack of time for, or simply lack of, a social life. To say the least, I am bored. And I hate being bored. Routine and busyness leads to stress, and though I love making my way in the musical sense, it is stressful. I wish I had a way, and someone with whom, to disconnect. But that's asking for icing on the cake, I guess.
I have such a sneaking suspicion that things are going to get worse before they get better, on the homefront and in our country. Holidays are always tight for me, financially, and I'm getting to the point for I need to make some changes in my household - be it ridding myself of a roommate, or finding a way to create some space, or whatnot. It's also getting to the point where the free and easy work, for the musical stuff, is running out. It looks like my next steps will be paying to join organizations, and organizing a trip or several trips down to Nashville (TN) to start trying to break into publishing. That means money.
I need a secretary. A sexy one. And a rich one.
10.15.2008
Gets up, lights a cigarette he's grown to hate...
God, I need a cigarette. Now that I have decided to quit, for a very good reason - so I can sing - it is hard to actually quit. What was easy - has been easy so many times before - is a damned chore now.
My lack of a good smoke (or ten) has made me a bit... twitchy and grouchy. Last night, I was thinking... "well, I'll write my way out of it." Didn't really work, but was a good idea. Besides, it is good to unleash, in the written sense, from time to time.
I heard a great line in a song this morning. "I am an impressionist." The song was about a painter, but the lines that followed, describing seeing something and painting one's take on it, made me really consider how that applies to me.
We are all impressionists, to some extent. But my storytelling - my songcraft - is decidedly less so, I think. Maybe I should try to be more impressionist. Less detailed.
I read an article this morning, in the Indy Star. It was actually an interview with the Pacers basketball coach, Jim O'Brien. Obie mentioned reading a book called The Last Lecture. I looked it up on Amazon. Very, very cool concept. Sometimes, professors are asked to, or just do, give a "final lecture" at the end of their semesters, to impart wisdom and things of great import to students they (likely) will never teach again. Well, in the book, this certain college professor, Randy Pausch, had recently found out he was terminally ill with cancer. So, then, he decided to give his final lecture - his actual FINAL lecture, knowing that, yes, this is my last chance to impart wisdom, to leave my legacy. The book sounds like a fantastic read. It also sounds a bit like Tuesdays With Morrie, and excellent book written by Mitch Albom that I would recommend to anyone.
I thought this was particularly coincidental, considering my "stage speech" post from last night. It has a certain existential twist to it that I find delectably evil.
The sad thing about books like those, and times when people try and remind me that "all will be well" or to "live life like no tomorrow" is that it is hard to sustain that kind of energy throughout every day of your life. I like optomism, I do, and I can play that card, usually, most any time I want. But that doesn't mean that sometimes it doesn't ring false. It does ring false, sometimes, in other words.
Change and growth are inevitable.
I wonder what my last words would be, what my last lecture be. Would it be full of the kind of metaphors for living life to its fullest, the ones that sometimes fill me with hope and other times turn my stomach?
I think it would be full of stories and songs. And I think most of those stories and songs would be good, positive, uplifting, hopeful.
Yes, I view myself as a songwriter and as a storyteller, and sometimes when I think of that, I think that I deal in lead, like a gunslinger. That's because sometimes those songs are driven by and made to resemble a bullet straight to the heart.
That's only because that is what matters. I deal in dreams and hopes and fears and love because those are the things that move and drive my life. I write how I write and sing what I sing because that is the fuel that, well, keeps the ember burning, to borrow from last night.
I am reminded of the scene in Almost Famous, where William is on the phone with Lester Bangs, and Lester reminds him that, "we're not cool." I'm not cool. I am an ordinary, lonely soul, documenting what that feels like so you've got someplace to go when you feel lonely and ordinary, or when you are on cloud #9 and want to stay that way.
I deal in lead, people. If you're not ready for the bullet, then you better get out of the war.
My lack of a good smoke (or ten) has made me a bit... twitchy and grouchy. Last night, I was thinking... "well, I'll write my way out of it." Didn't really work, but was a good idea. Besides, it is good to unleash, in the written sense, from time to time.
I heard a great line in a song this morning. "I am an impressionist." The song was about a painter, but the lines that followed, describing seeing something and painting one's take on it, made me really consider how that applies to me.
We are all impressionists, to some extent. But my storytelling - my songcraft - is decidedly less so, I think. Maybe I should try to be more impressionist. Less detailed.
I read an article this morning, in the Indy Star. It was actually an interview with the Pacers basketball coach, Jim O'Brien. Obie mentioned reading a book called The Last Lecture. I looked it up on Amazon. Very, very cool concept. Sometimes, professors are asked to, or just do, give a "final lecture" at the end of their semesters, to impart wisdom and things of great import to students they (likely) will never teach again. Well, in the book, this certain college professor, Randy Pausch, had recently found out he was terminally ill with cancer. So, then, he decided to give his final lecture - his actual FINAL lecture, knowing that, yes, this is my last chance to impart wisdom, to leave my legacy. The book sounds like a fantastic read. It also sounds a bit like Tuesdays With Morrie, and excellent book written by Mitch Albom that I would recommend to anyone.
I thought this was particularly coincidental, considering my "stage speech" post from last night. It has a certain existential twist to it that I find delectably evil.
The sad thing about books like those, and times when people try and remind me that "all will be well" or to "live life like no tomorrow" is that it is hard to sustain that kind of energy throughout every day of your life. I like optomism, I do, and I can play that card, usually, most any time I want. But that doesn't mean that sometimes it doesn't ring false. It does ring false, sometimes, in other words.
Change and growth are inevitable.
I wonder what my last words would be, what my last lecture be. Would it be full of the kind of metaphors for living life to its fullest, the ones that sometimes fill me with hope and other times turn my stomach?
I think it would be full of stories and songs. And I think most of those stories and songs would be good, positive, uplifting, hopeful.
Yes, I view myself as a songwriter and as a storyteller, and sometimes when I think of that, I think that I deal in lead, like a gunslinger. That's because sometimes those songs are driven by and made to resemble a bullet straight to the heart.
That's only because that is what matters. I deal in dreams and hopes and fears and love because those are the things that move and drive my life. I write how I write and sing what I sing because that is the fuel that, well, keeps the ember burning, to borrow from last night.
I am reminded of the scene in Almost Famous, where William is on the phone with Lester Bangs, and Lester reminds him that, "we're not cool." I'm not cool. I am an ordinary, lonely soul, documenting what that feels like so you've got someplace to go when you feel lonely and ordinary, or when you are on cloud #9 and want to stay that way.
I deal in lead, people. If you're not ready for the bullet, then you better get out of the war.
10.14.2008
Won't let the light escape from me...
I should be in bed. In fact, I was. I just couldn't sleep. As is so often the case when I don't fall asleep quickly, my mind begins to think. And that means love, god, and etc.
I said a little prayer. More like, asked a few questions, the same one from, what? 2, 5, 10 years ago? Does it ever change?
So I said my peace (piece?). Then turned over, and had a little vision. A stool, a stage, a mic and a guitar. Out there, the faces, maybe just one of those faces, of someone I have loved, another love crashed and burned. Or, perhaps, someone who loved me who I didn't love back. I asked myself, on that stage, how I would introduce a song (any song, really) about love, love found, love lost, love whatever.
What would I say to them? To Jessyka, Katey, Jess, Dana, Becca, Melissa? To Tara, Rachel, Kathy, Stephanie, Bethy, Lynette... to any of them, past, present, future, almost, never was?
It is funny how love works. Its funny how we, as human beings, turn it into such an impersonal, inhuman thing. There have been times when I have loved, and really, truly loved. And sometimes, that love hits a brick wall. There have been other times when I am that brick wall that someone else's love is smacking against, futile and twisting and empty because I am not reciprocating.
We really are callous, selfish people. We tell one girl that we love her, and she disappears for 6 months - won't call, won't write, disappears of the map. We tell one girl we like her, and she seduces us, sleeps with us, fills our head with hopes and dreams, and then disappears... dead? Or just too chicken to say she doesn't want to see us? Does it matter? Does it hurt any less? We do this while another girl over here needs us... while one won't stop texting, while one won't stop calling, and while one won't stay out of our business. We ignore them, we ignore their feelings, even as we bitch, moan, HATE, HURT over the fact that these other girls are doing those same things to us.
Now, change "we" and "us" to "I" and "me." Change "one girl" and "another girl" to "you" and "you."
Or take your pick of a handful of the people connected in each of our lives.
Life isn't hard. But love is hard. And we make it harder... we add religion, jealousy, past relationships, a lifetime of hurt and hope and dreams that no one can live up to, no one can cure. We pine for those that don't want us, and cast aside the ones that do want us but whom we don't want. Everyone has been the hurt and the hurter.
And maybe this is what God means when he says that man is evil. It sure feels like it.
I sit and I think... maybe I ask for too much. Maybe I want too much, or what I want isn't what I should want? But I am selfish. I haven't dated a girl who was my type - one quick crash and burn fuck-up aside - since college. Of the handful of girls I have dated, and yes, cynics in the audience, of the handful of girls I've slept with, too... I haven't wanted, loved, needed all of them. I manage to destroy and hurt the ones I don't want and need... and I managed to let myself get hurt and destroyed by the ones I did need, I did want.
Have you ever felt like, if only you could've loved someone more? If only I could've loved more, then so and so would've stayed, would've loved me more, would've worked out. DO you have any IDEA what that fucking feels like, to stand there with your broken dreams, bloodied, defeated, dead on the floor? Have you ever cried so fucking hard that you lost your breath, that you almost passed out for lack of oxygen? Have you ever hurt so much that the only way to sleep was whiskey, vicatin and sleeping pills, all together?
I have. And that is where these songs come from. That's where they are going. That's what they are about, the lives we lead, the pain we cause, the joy we hope for. Love is a wonderful thing, but it's a wicked thing, too.
Maybe that's why I write. It's the only way I know how to humanize love. It's the only way I know how to deal with my best friend falling for my dream girl, for my close friend feeling tossed aside, for my roommates too busy with their girlfriends to hang out anymore. Mostly, it's how I deal with what is left inside of MY hopes and dreams.
A tiny glimmer, a small spark... lies deep, deep down. Ashamed. Afraid. But hot. Burning so hot it hurts. And God, wherever and whoever he is, I thank him it is there, even as I wonder if/why he punishes me for these broken attempts at capturing some kind of Eden here on earth.
I won't let that darkness swallow it. Won't let the light escape from it. But it IS hard. And ever time I see your face, or your face, or your face, I am reminded by how easily you cast me aside, how easily I cast you aside, all in the name of sex and god and love and happiness.
Ashamed. Afraid. But hot... still. The sad thing is something, some time, has got to change. Have you ever watched an ember in a fire? How beautiful it is with its orange glow? What becomes of the ember? If you add to it, it flares to life, becoming a consuming fire, hot and bright. And, if you don't, it dies. If you don't it dies.
I don't want to compromise. I don't want to settle. And neither do I wish to be selfish. Neither do I wish to be callous, uncaring, a brick wall.
I will not be ashamed. I will no longer fear. I will go down fighting... with guitar in hand, with throat sore from singing and roaring, with fingers bloodied and bruised. With heart on sleeve. If the ember dies, so be it. I'm going to make damn sure you don't ever forget the glow for the time that it lasted.
I said a little prayer. More like, asked a few questions, the same one from, what? 2, 5, 10 years ago? Does it ever change?
So I said my peace (piece?). Then turned over, and had a little vision. A stool, a stage, a mic and a guitar. Out there, the faces, maybe just one of those faces, of someone I have loved, another love crashed and burned. Or, perhaps, someone who loved me who I didn't love back. I asked myself, on that stage, how I would introduce a song (any song, really) about love, love found, love lost, love whatever.
What would I say to them? To Jessyka, Katey, Jess, Dana, Becca, Melissa? To Tara, Rachel, Kathy, Stephanie, Bethy, Lynette... to any of them, past, present, future, almost, never was?
It is funny how love works. Its funny how we, as human beings, turn it into such an impersonal, inhuman thing. There have been times when I have loved, and really, truly loved. And sometimes, that love hits a brick wall. There have been other times when I am that brick wall that someone else's love is smacking against, futile and twisting and empty because I am not reciprocating.
We really are callous, selfish people. We tell one girl that we love her, and she disappears for 6 months - won't call, won't write, disappears of the map. We tell one girl we like her, and she seduces us, sleeps with us, fills our head with hopes and dreams, and then disappears... dead? Or just too chicken to say she doesn't want to see us? Does it matter? Does it hurt any less? We do this while another girl over here needs us... while one won't stop texting, while one won't stop calling, and while one won't stay out of our business. We ignore them, we ignore their feelings, even as we bitch, moan, HATE, HURT over the fact that these other girls are doing those same things to us.
Now, change "we" and "us" to "I" and "me." Change "one girl" and "another girl" to "you" and "you."
Or take your pick of a handful of the people connected in each of our lives.
Life isn't hard. But love is hard. And we make it harder... we add religion, jealousy, past relationships, a lifetime of hurt and hope and dreams that no one can live up to, no one can cure. We pine for those that don't want us, and cast aside the ones that do want us but whom we don't want. Everyone has been the hurt and the hurter.
And maybe this is what God means when he says that man is evil. It sure feels like it.
I sit and I think... maybe I ask for too much. Maybe I want too much, or what I want isn't what I should want? But I am selfish. I haven't dated a girl who was my type - one quick crash and burn fuck-up aside - since college. Of the handful of girls I have dated, and yes, cynics in the audience, of the handful of girls I've slept with, too... I haven't wanted, loved, needed all of them. I manage to destroy and hurt the ones I don't want and need... and I managed to let myself get hurt and destroyed by the ones I did need, I did want.
Have you ever felt like, if only you could've loved someone more? If only I could've loved more, then so and so would've stayed, would've loved me more, would've worked out. DO you have any IDEA what that fucking feels like, to stand there with your broken dreams, bloodied, defeated, dead on the floor? Have you ever cried so fucking hard that you lost your breath, that you almost passed out for lack of oxygen? Have you ever hurt so much that the only way to sleep was whiskey, vicatin and sleeping pills, all together?
I have. And that is where these songs come from. That's where they are going. That's what they are about, the lives we lead, the pain we cause, the joy we hope for. Love is a wonderful thing, but it's a wicked thing, too.
Maybe that's why I write. It's the only way I know how to humanize love. It's the only way I know how to deal with my best friend falling for my dream girl, for my close friend feeling tossed aside, for my roommates too busy with their girlfriends to hang out anymore. Mostly, it's how I deal with what is left inside of MY hopes and dreams.
A tiny glimmer, a small spark... lies deep, deep down. Ashamed. Afraid. But hot. Burning so hot it hurts. And God, wherever and whoever he is, I thank him it is there, even as I wonder if/why he punishes me for these broken attempts at capturing some kind of Eden here on earth.
I won't let that darkness swallow it. Won't let the light escape from it. But it IS hard. And ever time I see your face, or your face, or your face, I am reminded by how easily you cast me aside, how easily I cast you aside, all in the name of sex and god and love and happiness.
Ashamed. Afraid. But hot... still. The sad thing is something, some time, has got to change. Have you ever watched an ember in a fire? How beautiful it is with its orange glow? What becomes of the ember? If you add to it, it flares to life, becoming a consuming fire, hot and bright. And, if you don't, it dies. If you don't it dies.
I don't want to compromise. I don't want to settle. And neither do I wish to be selfish. Neither do I wish to be callous, uncaring, a brick wall.
I will not be ashamed. I will no longer fear. I will go down fighting... with guitar in hand, with throat sore from singing and roaring, with fingers bloodied and bruised. With heart on sleeve. If the ember dies, so be it. I'm going to make damn sure you don't ever forget the glow for the time that it lasted.
10.13.2008
I suggest we learn to love ourselves before it's made illegal
So... things are... different. I can't complain - I had a good weekend. But, you know, nothing happened, other than me talking with Cory about the same shit we've spent the last two weeks discussing. He doesn't have any answers yet. I don't have any answers yet. And while I want to punch Cory for A) being vaguely stupid and B) because I am jealous of what success might mean for him (not about the "who" - I couldn't care less about who it is, it's that thought of it being the thing we keep searching for, to final grab it and have the "fairy tale" junk work for once).
It's just that this curse of what I want - sometimes, what I think I need and, sometimes, what I think I deserve - can't be laid to rest. I want to take things easy, to release my expectations, and let come what may. But then I start to think... why should I lower my expectations? Just because I haven't met someone who can live up to those expectations, why should I lower them? I stop, then, and think, "well damn... it's not like those expectations are that high." And, they aren't.
One could accuse me of having my head up in the clouds. And yes, I have made my fair share of mistakes. I don't ask for perfection. Only... substance. Conscience. Taste. Moral value. Self-worth.
I don't want a consolation prize.
It's just that this curse of what I want - sometimes, what I think I need and, sometimes, what I think I deserve - can't be laid to rest. I want to take things easy, to release my expectations, and let come what may. But then I start to think... why should I lower my expectations? Just because I haven't met someone who can live up to those expectations, why should I lower them? I stop, then, and think, "well damn... it's not like those expectations are that high." And, they aren't.
One could accuse me of having my head up in the clouds. And yes, I have made my fair share of mistakes. I don't ask for perfection. Only... substance. Conscience. Taste. Moral value. Self-worth.
I don't want a consolation prize.
10.10.2008
The queen's prize awaits...
Ok, so yeah, I didn't announce that this is "GbV month," and it is not, and I did use the lyrics of another band to title this entry, that band being GbV and not Pearl Jam. Sue me.
Last night was fun. I busted ass on the elliptical at work, then jetted home and got cleaned up. Cory and I talked set-lists for our upcoming shows, grab a bite to eat, and the practiced. It was soooo good to practice - not just with Cory, but period. And I think I may have found a key to get me back into performing... I really enjoyed singing last night.
Really. Cory had a copy of a show we played as Souls Harbour with Chris and Kim, and while there were moments that were fantastic, there were moments where it was decidedly less so. I sounded good every once in a while - good, but not great - and simply terrible most of the time. The rest of us weren't really much better, except for Chris, who somehow got the shaft and didn't get to sing as much. We watched enough of the tape to cue up a song that I can't remember how to play, don't remember the lyrics for, and have someone lost the sheet where all of that was written down (damnit). We had both had enough just listening to snippets by then, so we moved on to actual practice.
The thing was, I was astonished when I opened my voice to sing. I mean, here I was, listening to myself (albeit 4-5 years ago), my voice all pinched, nasaly, out of key and off pitch. And then, now, I open my mouth to sing, and voice was... it was startling how much I have improved. And, I mean, this is something Cory has pointed out a few times recently, but I don't think I had anything to compare it to. To be honest, I still thought I sucked as a singer.
Not that I am Josh Groban or Nina Simone or Nancy Sinatra, or even, you know, Harry Connick, Jr. No, I am just me. But I am enjoying that fact that "me" is a much better singer than "me" was five years ago, and you know, probably two or three years ago.
C and I banged through 14-16 songs, just trying to get a grip on what sounds good, what would make a good set, what we both felt comfortable with, and, you know, what wasn't in the key of A. Apparently, I have written a LOT of songs in the key of A major. Damn. But oh well, songs is songs and that's what I do.
Not everything we played worked, but enough of it did that I am really excited for the upcoming shows in Bloomington and Indianapolis.
The queen's prize awaits, and she better be ready, because it is back, improved, not new. This is old soul kind of music, acoustic rock and roll in the grand traditions of our forefathers (Pete and Uncle Neil, I am looking at you).
For those about to rock, we salute you.
Last night was fun. I busted ass on the elliptical at work, then jetted home and got cleaned up. Cory and I talked set-lists for our upcoming shows, grab a bite to eat, and the practiced. It was soooo good to practice - not just with Cory, but period. And I think I may have found a key to get me back into performing... I really enjoyed singing last night.
Really. Cory had a copy of a show we played as Souls Harbour with Chris and Kim, and while there were moments that were fantastic, there were moments where it was decidedly less so. I sounded good every once in a while - good, but not great - and simply terrible most of the time. The rest of us weren't really much better, except for Chris, who somehow got the shaft and didn't get to sing as much. We watched enough of the tape to cue up a song that I can't remember how to play, don't remember the lyrics for, and have someone lost the sheet where all of that was written down (damnit). We had both had enough just listening to snippets by then, so we moved on to actual practice.
The thing was, I was astonished when I opened my voice to sing. I mean, here I was, listening to myself (albeit 4-5 years ago), my voice all pinched, nasaly, out of key and off pitch. And then, now, I open my mouth to sing, and voice was... it was startling how much I have improved. And, I mean, this is something Cory has pointed out a few times recently, but I don't think I had anything to compare it to. To be honest, I still thought I sucked as a singer.
Not that I am Josh Groban or Nina Simone or Nancy Sinatra, or even, you know, Harry Connick, Jr. No, I am just me. But I am enjoying that fact that "me" is a much better singer than "me" was five years ago, and you know, probably two or three years ago.
C and I banged through 14-16 songs, just trying to get a grip on what sounds good, what would make a good set, what we both felt comfortable with, and, you know, what wasn't in the key of A. Apparently, I have written a LOT of songs in the key of A major. Damn. But oh well, songs is songs and that's what I do.
Not everything we played worked, but enough of it did that I am really excited for the upcoming shows in Bloomington and Indianapolis.
The queen's prize awaits, and she better be ready, because it is back, improved, not new. This is old soul kind of music, acoustic rock and roll in the grand traditions of our forefathers (Pete and Uncle Neil, I am looking at you).
For those about to rock, we salute you.
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